I Was An Xbox Live Celebrity, For One Night Only

I shamelessly invaded your Xbox Dashboard last week – and now that my thumb fatigue has expired, I'm here to tell you about it. 

When Avery Alix from Xbox Live emailed me about participating in a "Game with Fame" event, I said, "Hell yeah!" faster than Lindsay Lohan to another shot of Cuervo. Avery is not only known for his rapier-like wit and awesome hair, but also for being Xbox Live's events producer. He is currently in charge of both "Game with Fame" and "Community Playdate" events. 


For anyone unfamiliar with the "Game with Fame" events, Xbox Live's "My Community" section frequently provides gamers with the opportunity to befriend a well-known singer, actor, athlete, etc. in order to partake in some online multiplayer merriment. Players can play right alongside celebs! Like Dane Cook! But more importantly, they can shoot Dane Cook in the back of the noggin with a sawed-off shotty for bragging rights! Popular game choices for these events include Castle Crashers, Halo 3, Call of Duty, and UNO. I chose BioShock 2's online multiplayer because it's undeniably fantastic and I just can't get enough of the glitching, freezing, and spawning inside of walls. (Ooh, cheap shot!) 


After providing Xbox Live with pictures and a preferred time, I was given a specific gamertag for the event. I soon saw my face on the Dashboard and nearly passed out from my irrepressible mirthquake. I was expecting to get a few messages and friend requests, hoping at least some people would notice the event. 

…I had no idea what I was in for. 

Within the first hour of my promotion going live, I had one hundred friend requests and one hundred messages. This didn't seem like too big of a deal, considering how many Xbox Live members exist… until I found out, oh, wait, one hundred is the limit for both messages and requests. Turns out I had WAY more than that. For every message I deleted, another one came in right behind it. 

Here's a quick breakdown of the plethora of messages I received: 

• 50% - Extremely nice messages/Compliments from excited gamers.

• 38% - Charming notes from bold English professors, like this:

• 7% - Angry, mean messages mostly regarding the 100 friends cap. Apparently, that is my fault. (Sorry, everyone.)

  • 4% - Inaudible voice messages.

  • 1% - Pictures of male genitalia.

With these messages in mind, I became slightly nervous, convinced I would be spending the majority of the event deflecting pick-up lines from the types of gamers who probably didn't buy DoA: Xtreme Beach Volleyball for the volleyball. 

In fact, it can be bad enough playing as an anonymous female in online multiplayer matches. I stay away from games like Modern Warfare 2 online since, from my experience, the judgments, jokes and insults start flying once some opponents discover I'm a chick. I can only laugh along with them for so long before I start shaking my anti-misogyny gaffi stick over my head and then quickly log off before my Tusken Raider battle cry worries the neighbours. I figured it would be twice as bad playing with individuals who knew my identity. 

Thankfully, I was completely proven wrong. 

The first lobby was quiet. Only one or two players were willing to speak. But using the approachable personality and naturally infectious laughter that I'm famous for to beguile them into a bust-out-the-keg comfort zone, a few more came out of their shell and soon began saying things to me like, "Who are you again?" Things loosened up and nearly everyone was chatting. I played round after round with cool, mature gamers who behaved themselves and (thankfully) endured my sarcasm. My teammates stuck by my side and, while I won't claim that certain opposing teammates ganged up on me, I will absolutely hint at it. (You know who you are!) The best part was the complete absence of humiliating questions and rude comments. 

Let's throw on our analysing hats and our online social interaction psychology clam diggers for a moment and consider the results of this coincidental experiment. One would think that after receiving so many ballsy, juvenile messages to my "Game with Fame" gamertag that at least one person during the event would have acted similarly. But they didn't. My in-game, voice-to-voice interactions were very courteous and rather timid. If only I could enjoy the same chivalry when playing on my private gamertag with an unknown identity, where, instead, it is more common to be told I am ugly, unwelcome, and stupid. 

While it is disheartening that so many disrespectful gamers exist and make the unfortunate decision each day to open their fat traps, it's also extremely refreshing to know so many gamers are not like that – like the ones in my "Game with Fame" event. As a female gamer, I can't express my appreciation enough. You nice guys out there make online gaming experiences much more enjoyable for gals like me. 

Quick note! If you ever feel like trying a "Game with Fame" event, keep in mind how quickly the host's friends list will fill up. Admittedly, it was pretty difficult to sift through the multitude of messages and gamertags to see who was actually serious about playing. 

The event was a really positive experience. Thanks again to everyone who participated and did not send me pictures of their genitals. It means a lot.

Lisa Foiles is best known as the former star of Nickelodeon's award-winning comedy show, All That. She currently works as a graphic designer and writes for her game site, Save Point. For more info, visit Lisa's official website.


    A bunch of guys were nice to a somewhat famous attractive woman? Shock! Who'd have thought that would happen?

    That really positive experience she's talking about, is actually how it should just be normally. But from her own statements, it's not.

    When they don't know she's attractive, they assume she's ugly(she's playing video games after all), and stupid.

    I wonder how hard it's going to be for her to go back to being anonymous, knowing how it could be, if most of XBLA weren't sexist jerks.

      I don’t think online play is as bad as you make it out to be either on 360 or PS3, I’ve played a lot of games online guys and girls and seriously 90% of the people are just online to play and have a good time. Sure you run in to the occasional idiot – but more often than not that person will just be booted from the game quickly.

        Hey, I'm just reading her words. She's avoiding whole games, because the community is too hostile towards any female gamers.

        I think it must depend on the audience of the game, really. I remember playing Rainbow 6 Vegas 1 and 2, I never heard any comments when a girl was talking. Nobody seemed to notice/care at all.

    If Lisa replaces Hex from Good Game i would TOTALLY start watching it again!

      I guess you're the guy who sent the "SHOW ME YOURE BOBIES" message. Way to reinforce the male gamer stereotype.

        tits or GTFO


    Send all the gamertags to Xbox and have them banned.
    And what are bobies by the way? English policemen??

    I reckon she looks better with blonde hair.
    also plus 1 for David Brady and the guy who asked for bobies

      she loks better as a brunette

        No she doesn't

          who the hell is she?

            Nickolodian or something
            point is she looked better as a blonde (IN MY OPINION[which is gospel])

    damn that message is funny, and yet very sad at the same time.

    i got the jack of idiots on live and blocked all communications except with friends. ps3 is different though, feels like you're playing by yourself.

    Me liek to see her bobies 2!!!

    The next generation of consoles HAVE to come with the IP Bitchslap function so people who act like swats get a smack around the ear.

    Shame they can't really make an audio punishment for fear of deafness lawsuits or it'd be a good idea to kill the mic and send a high piched annoying noise for a minute or 2 to the headset of the person responsible for being a twat when everyone else in the game complains that he's a twat

      I'm sure the griefers would have fun with that one.

    Who are you?

    Bewbs. ':3


    please don't take offence to this, but WHO ARE YOU?

    And your absolutley right with saying that some of the gaming comunity are sexist. i'm a guy, but i hear people online being really rude to people purely because they're female. i have a really good friend who's a girl and she's a better gamer than me, which proves my point that WOMEN CAN GAME TOO.

    btw nice 360 controller in pic. (red is my favourite coulour)

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