The Best Way To Play Skyrim Might Just Be To Make It Kid-Friendly

The Best Way To Play Skyrim Might Just Be To Make It Kid-Friendly

Generations of gamers who have not only the arcade but also years of computer, Nintendo and PlayStation games in their pasts are now themselves raising children. In a world of wall-to-wall screens and endless gaming options, it can be hard to find just the right game for game-loving parents and their inquisitive kids to enjoy together.

Over at Brainy Gamer, Michael Abbott describes the challenge of finding games that engage his four-year-old daughter, Zoe. Games designed for kids don’t always do it. But Skyrim does.

“Kids quickly learn that parents save the best stuff for themselves,” Abbott wisely observes. “Zoe is happy to while away 20 minutes with a Dora game, but she knows whatever I’m playing is likely to be a hundred times more interesting, and she wants a piece of that action.” Enter Skyrim. While clearly some parts of the game are too violent or explicit to be kid-friendly, Abbott finds that with some planning and prep work on his part, Skyrim is perfect for his daughter to enjoy.

There are eight ways parents can help make Skyrim great family fun time, Abbott explains. Some are more obvious than others. For example, no matter what system the game is running on, a game pad will be easier for small, young, relatively uncoordinated hands to learn to use than the keyboard-and-mouse combination is. Likewise, establishing an ethical code of action in advance — such as “help people who ask for it” — can make the wide and murky waters of a game easier to navigate.

“Be a mage,” Abbott also advises. “I prefer Zoe casting spells to wielding swords and axes. It feels less ‘realistic’ to me and more suitable for a child.” And, of course, parents should review the game, or sections of the game, before sharing them with a child, to make sure the content in question stays appropriate.

But Abbott’s best advice is all about letting kids explore and learn from games the same way their parents do. Creative problem solving can be the best part of Skyrim:

Let your child discover there can be more than one way to solve a problem. I spared Zoe the Fellglow Keep gore, but let her face The Caller boss at the end of the quest for a reason. We were given the choice of fighting her or negotiating with her, but we found a third option we liked better. We cast an Invisibility spell, grabbed the stolen books, picked her pocket for the exit key, and escaped the dungeon. “We were smarter than her, Daddy!” You bet we were.

Thanks to the time she’s spent in Skyrim (and with her brainy gaming dad), four-year-old Zoe can now read maps and count currency. And she’s young enough not to care about things that may not matter: ” Just remember that a small child thinks less about levelling up or RPG mechanics,” Abbott cautions, “and more about having fun, moment to moment, in an imaginary world.”

Sounds good to me. Maybe we really should try seeing games through the eyes of a child more often.

Skyrim for Small Fry [The Brainy Gamer]


  • The most important thing being advocated here is actually supervising what your kids are playing and how they play it.

    • This.
      I let a 4 year old sister of a friend play GTA: Vice City.
      The difference was, I used it to teach her about driving. I explained America drives on the other side of the road, and I let her drive, and pointed out traffic lights, and how we should stop.
      When she did hit someone, usually it wasn’t at high speed, so I’d have her stop, and get out to make sure they were okay. Often they got up and ran away, so she could keep driving. Otherwise I would have her wait for the ambulance to come.

    • Supervision, and preparation. You don’t want to lead your kids into a surprise encounter with a satanic ritual sacrifice…

  • This is excellent food for thought. There is so much good that came
    from this, it shows responsible parenting, bonding, encouraging
    outside the box thinking and learning about maps, currency and who
    knows what else. It’s reading things like this that make me hope
    that one day when I have children, they will want to play games
    with me, just like this.

  • Awesome. There should be a mod out there that tones down the blood
    and mature content in Skyrim so that kids can play. I wouldn’t know
    a thing about it though since i dont use PC.

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