I Sold My Video Games To Pay For My Wedding And Said Goodbye To Part Of Myself

Stacks of games sit around my living room, as I organise photographs from my phone. I log onto ebay and check prices. I list a few games. I sell one almost immediately. That one doesn't surprise me. Tales of Symphonia. It's one of the rarer in my collection, and I had expected to make quite a bit, quite quickly. Ebay User #1 meets my expectations.

We had finished our wedding budget a while before I began selling games. I've been asking myself where all of the money is going, and I have yet to come to any sort of satisfying conclusion. Planning a wedding is an expensive project, even if you try and cut as many corners as possible. Our wedding isn't even that big, but it's big enough. And when you have an expense this large, and you don't have enough money to cover it, you begin to look for ways to raise some dough. Tonight, I've started selling my video game collection.

The sales start rolling in. Ebay Users #2 through #4 exceed my expectations. By the end of the night, I've listed five and sold four of my games. Beyond this, all of my buyers have paid by Paypal, so by the time I go to bed, my extra wedding fund has already received its first deposits.

I told her a little earlier in the night what I was doing. She asked why. I told her that if we need money to pay for the wedding, selling video games seems like an easy solution. I've left her speechless. I love to leave her speechless.

***

Spoiler Alert: In the mid-1990s, I brought a ragtag group of warriors to what I thought was the end of Final Fantasy III. (Years later, we would learn that what we believed was the third Final Fantasy game was actually the sixth Final Fantasy game, but only the third to be released in the US.) The villain of the game, Kefka, had harnessed massive amounts of magic and was planning to use it to take over the world. I prepared for what I believed to be the final battle of the game, a battle which should have lasted close to a half-hour, the standard convention of other mid-1990s Japanese role-playing games.

Instead, in one of the greatest video game twists of all time, Kefka, who had, throughout the game, revealed himself to be insane, turned the magic on the world itself. Mountains rose out of the ground and canyons formed where cities used to be. It turned out I wasn't at the end of the game at all. In fact, the world had changed, and I was only halfway done.

***

It turned out I wasn't at the end of the game at all. In fact, the world had changed, and I was only halfway done.

While choosing to sell my games may have been an easy decision, selecting which games to sell proves to be much harder. I have been playing games for nearly 20 years now, and some of my games date back to my high school years. It's not just a matter of pulling the games out of my closet. I take a bit of time to think through each one and find that I can fit each of them into one of four categories:

1. Games I've played before, which I love and will probably play again. 2. Games I've played before, which I will probably never play again. 3. Games I haven't played yet, but I am still excited about. 4. Games I haven't played yet and probably never will for whatever reason.

The first decision is easy. I'm not going to sell any games that fit into categories 1 and 3. The games in category 1 are important to me, while the games in category 3 could eventually become important to me if I ever play them.

The next decision is slightly harder. Games that fit into category 2? Even though I will never play them again, they may still have a special place in my heart. Many of these games remind me of periods of my life, some good, some bad. I can look at one game and remember the time my roommate and I competed against each other in a speed-run, with the winner earning some major bragging rights. In another game, I see the drinking game my friends and I invented to make our gaming sessions that much more enjoyable. Selling these games feels almost like I'm selling a piece of my former life.

And then I realise, that is exactly what I'm doing.

***

In an old Polish wedding tradition, the bride would often cut her hair after the ceremony. The hair, which she would have grown out since childhood, would be kept in braids to signify her unmarried status. During the wedding, the braids would be removed, and the hair would be cut. This symbolised leaving her old life behind and beginning a new life with her husband.

In an American tradition, we go out to stores and fill out gift registries, asking for nice things we'd like our friends and families to buy us. We place things like dishes, pots, pans and furniture on the list, hoping we'll receive some of them. Why do we do it? Don't most of us already have dishes, pots, pans and furniture? Why do we need more? For some of us, it's simply a matter of wanting nicer things. For most of us, however, it's symbolic. We're creating a new life with this person, and we want new things for that new life, even if the old things were perfectly fine.

***

The third decision -- deciding to sell the games in the fourth category -- is the hardest. At the moment, I have no plans to play them. But, what about next month? Next year? I've spent money on all of these games, and I stand to make back less than half. If I eventually want to play these games, I'll have to buy them again, spending even more money on them. I eventually decide to sell them, because paying for my wedding is my primary goal, but it's not an easy decision for the practical side of me.

Ultimately, the decision to sell these games comes down to time. I don't have much time, and I don't see myself having time in the future. In addition to planning a wedding, I am a full-time student and a teacher. And while video games have always been my preferred way to zone, it's painfully obvious to me that they require some major time investment, some genres more than others. Even the shortest first-person shooter will still require 6-8 hours of my time. RPGs? A minimum of 40.

I remember when my sister got married. Their first year was hard.

"He used to turn off the games when I'd come into a room," she said. "He doesn't anymore."

There were other problems, of course. But, as I move closer to my wedding, this is the one that sticks out in my mind. Back in my undergraduate days, I would play video games constantly. It wouldn't be abnormal to find me up until 2 or 3 o'clock in the morning playing Halo. While I don't play as much as I used to, I certainly still enjoy dropping an hour or two, every now and then.

After the wedding, though, that might not be an option. It isn't that I'll have less free time-though between classes and work, I won't have a ton of it -- but I will be sharing that time with another person. Am I going to want to limit my already limited time with my new wife, by playing video games? Would my new marriage even survive that?

When I look at my stack of unplayed games, I realise that I'm looking at hours upon hours of gameplay I'll never have the time to play. I bought them once, thinking I would someday have time. However, as my list of unplayed games grew, so did my distance from that magical "someday". When I look at the next two years of my life, I realise that someday may never arrive.

Still, as I post these games to ebay, I can't help but feel a slight pang of regret. I had plans. Plans to play those games. I am so excited to get married, and this woman I'm marrying is my perfect fit, but I'm still questioning what could have been. What things did I want to accomplish that will now be harder, because I'm sharing my life with someone else?

***

As I approached my 30th birthday, I started to panic. According to what I've learned from TV sitcoms, this is common. My panic stemmed from a perception that I had not accomplished much in my life. To combat this panic, I sat down with a piece of paper and wrote out a list of 30 things I wanted to do in my 30s. The list, as would be normal for someone feeling their life was limited, included a lot of travel, with a few personal goals thrown in for good measure. As far as I was concerned, if I managed to cross off half the items, I would be satisfied.

I met my fiancée not long before I started my list, and we started dating not long after. By the time I decided to marry her, I had largely forgotten all about it. Once, when I wanted to do something romantic, I decided to show it to her, crumple it up, and then work together to start a new list -- things WE would do. When the time came, however, I couldn't even remember where I had put the original.

Suddenly, all the plans in my world no longer mattered. And I was more than OK with that; in fact, I couldn't imagine it any other way.

***

The role-playing games are the toughest to let go. I've been playing them since I could first pick up a controller. As a socially-awkward comic book geek, the epic stories presented by these games represent some of my fondest memories. Two decades later, that hasn't changed much, if at all.

I originally peppered my to-play list with quite a few RPGs, convinced I would someday (there's that word again) have an infinite amount of free time. After all, at a minimum of 40 hours, they present the best "bang" for your buck, as far as video game purchases go. And while a good portion of them sat unplayed on my shelf for months, buying each one had still seemed like a good idea at the time. Now, however, I'm reaping the true benefit of those decisions. I'm packing them up in yellow envelopes and sending them around the country to new homes.

It's a surreal process, making a decision like that: choosing to sell something that you feel has defined your past to pay for something that will define your future. How much is the future worth to you? Are you willing to let go of a piece of you? How about all of your previous plans?

***

The role-playing games are the toughest to let go. I've been playing them since I could first pick up a controller.

In the games of our youth, when we'd die, we would be greeted with a countdown, followed by the words "Press Start to Continue". It was a holdover from arcade games, which used the countdown method, followed by "Insert Coin to Continue" to encourage us to spend even more of our parents' hard-earned quarters. The idea was that we had died so many times, we ran out of lives. "Continuing" was the game's way of giving us another chance: start the game near where we died, fresh with a whole new set of lives to try again! In real life there are very few chances at a fresh start, but I believe marriage is one of them. Yes, I will have to deal with parts of my past; I'd be delusional if I thought I'd get a completely fresh start. However, getting married has forced me to examine a lot of those past experiences and decide what's coming with me into my new life. As parts of my old life die off, I am pressing start to continue, ready to see what the future holds for me and my new bride.

I still have some video games. As mentioned above, there are a few titles that hold a special place in my heart, and I will never get rid of them. My video game closet, however, is remarkably empty. The auctions are over, I've received my payment, and the games have been shipped. There's nothing left to do but look at our wedding budget and decide how best to apply the money.

I'm not sure what video games will hold for me in the future. I'm sure they'll be there. They've been too important over the years to completely let them go. However, it's important that I don't forget that I will no longer be alone in life. I will be part of a pair, part of a duo. My time will no longer be my time, just as her time will no longer be hers. It will be "our time", and I'm not entirely sure what that will look like.

They say the first year of marriage is the hardest. You spend all of your time trying to figure out what your new life looks like together, and there's often bitterness and resentment over a loss of independence. I fully expect video games to play a part in that, as it did in my sister's first year of marriage twelve years ago. Eventually though, I think we'll settle into a new normal, and video games will become a part of my life again, though I'm sure my dedication will be much more limited. I doubt I'll have many more 3am gaming sessions (which might be good, because I'm getting old), but an hour here and there will certainly be possible. Whatever the case, I'll be married to the woman I love, and I can't wait to see what that new normal looks like.

My world has changed, and I find I'm only halfway done.


Christopher Lawton writes a lot of words, which he then puts into sentences, which he then puts into paragraphs. He lives with his beautiful wife, April, in Bellevue, Nebraska, where he is working on his Master's degree in English and teaching university students how to write. For more Chris, you can visit T.R.O.A.M.M.or find him on Twitter, though he makes no promises to update either of them.


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    I'm doing this now - getting ready for the birth of our first child.

      congrats, good luck. I had more time to play games when my son was 1-8 weeks old. But the older he got, there became more I could help with and take over for my wife. Now my gaming has taken a much larger back seat and I dont mind. RPGs and online matches are harder to play due to time contraints. Racing sims, FPSs and games that have easily accessible save points have become my go to.
      Although the Final fantasy series now appearing on the IOS and android has been handy as you can save a heck of a lot easier now.

      I lived with my wife for many years before we got married and so gaming became not just my choice of entertainment, but hers as well. I adapted my gaming preferences to include her. The LEGO series was a really fun one for us to play.
      Before Bub came along I still had my hardcore gaming time. Just not all the time and I don't feel I missed out because of this.

      Me too! High five! I'm keeping my games though, but I won't be playing some of them for a while.

      My wife and I live in a two bedroom unit, and for the last few years the second bedroom has been my study/man cave, complete with a beefy gaming/work PC, nerd posters and toys etc. To make room for a nursery for the baby, I'm shipping all of that off to my old bedroom at my folks' place and will have to go there to work from now on.

      It also means I'm losing my primary gaming machine at home. I do have some consoles, but I only really have them for the exclusives; I prefer to make most of my purchases on Steam these days due to some OCD desire to have all of my purchases in one place. Plus the couch/TV has previously been my wife's domain in our downtime, and it's going to be hard for her to share it more than she used to have to. I'm currently attempting to finally finish Skyward Sword on the Wii at the moment so hopefully that will tide me over for a while, but I think I'm really going to miss the PC eventually. I may have to make my own HTPC/Steambox to replace it.

      Because my time is so much more limited these days, and there are so many more games out there that I'm aware of, I've recently decided to change the way I game and really limit the games I play to ones that I truly want to play so I can invest the time in them that they deserve instead of hurrying to finish them so I can get to the next big release. It seems to be working, and I think it will be a very good strategy for me once the baby arrives.

    I am also doing this now but its for a holiday for my wife and myself.

    I guess women change you.....

      You may not think it now, but one day all of you will regret it.

      A wedding doesn't have to cost the earth. Our wedding only cost 4 grand, that was for everything, the cars, photographer, ceremony and reception and her parents paid for it.

        Fair call, but my point is women change you. I don't really care about my old games any more. I don't collect them and all they do is collect dust.

        Most of them are nintendo games so they will probably re-release them anyway haha

          Women will only change you if you let them, and you'll end up resenting them for it. You should only change if you want to do it for yourself, not because someone else wants you to.

          If you don't want those games anymore I'll gladly take them off your hands ;)

        mine was only $6K.
        i can't understand how people justify spending exorbitant amounts of money for something that lasts just a few hours. even at 6 grand i was pissed off.

          Around the same deal here. We managed to get a sweet deal with a venue for 60 people and food and reception for 6k. I never had to sell my games!!

    I once suggested that I sell some of my games to help pay for some bills. My girlfriend actually slapped me and said to me "Don't you dare."

    I was stunned. Why that reaction? But as we sat down and talked about it, I realised why. She didn't want me to sell memories. She didn't want me to sell part of myself. She loved the way I got excited over a new release. She loved th

      All I can say to that is, wow. Don't you ever let that woman go. If I told my wife I was selling it all, she'd probably jump for joy, or die of shock :)

      Stupid touch screen. Full story below.

      Loved the what!? LOVED THE WHAT!? Oh god! She murdered him! He was getting too close and spreading the truth to other people!!!

      My girlfriends the same, it's just when I suggested it she threatened to kick me in the nuts haha.
      She wants me to have those memories, even if it's a game I won't play again she wants me to keep it and so I can look back and say "hey I remember that game"

    I once suggested that I sell some of my games, especially the rarer ones, to help pay for some bills. My girlfriend actually slapped me and said to me "Don't you dare."

    I was stunned. Why that reaction? But as we sat down and talked about it, I realised why. She didn't want me to sell memories. She didn't want me to sell part of myself. She didn't want me to look back one day and ask myself what the hell had I done?

    She loved the way I got excited over a new release. She loved the way I nostalgia'd over some older games. She loved the look of concentration I'd get while focused. She loved the little temper tantrums I'd throw when I lost. She loved sharing in my victories and my defeats. She enjoyed gaming too, but she knew how much gaming meant to me, and would never ask me to part with it.

    There's no reason that gaming can't stay an important factor in your life. My girlfriend and I often spend time gaming, either together or separately, and it works. Don't get me wrong, if this method is working for the author, then I'm more than happy for them. I just can't ever see myself doing it, and I have a hand there to slap me if I think about it.

      My wife is more of a gamer than I am. If I tried to sell our games, she'd be slapping me (metaphorically, I hope) for a different reason. We've had some hard times over the last 9 years, but never once did we say "we'll have to sell the Xbox".

        wife: we're broke, but we're keeping the xbox...so pack up your controller...

    Maybe if you budgeted better before hand you wouldn't have to sell your games. You don't have to buy every single new release. I know for a fact that I'm going to play every single game I buy, buying games and not playing them is just incomprehensible to me.

    Put away a little money for a rainy day by not being stupid and buying every single video game in existence and you'll never have to do this.

      This message brought to you by Mr Missed The Fucking Point.

        Clearly the point isn't very sharp if everyone here is saying they're selling off their video games for their wiminz.

        Kind Regards,
        Mr Missed The Fucking Point.

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          Get a woman worth spending your life with or have a child who you can share new adventures in gaming with, you'll start to understand.

            Already do. Nice assumption though. I can also put away a little money and have self restraint from buying every video game that comes out. It's not a hard concept.

              Youre only assuming he didnt save though too. Weddings are expensive. Notoriously so. They may not have quite the amount they need. Who knows.

                Read the other replies. Weddings don't have to be expensive at all, and if you're resorting to selling your video games then you obviously need the cash (which is even stated in the article)

                ... and you don’t have enough money to cover it, you begin to look for ways to raise some dough. Tonight, I’ve started selling my video game collection.

                Sure, he may have had savings, but if he had a miniscule amount of will power and didn't buy video games that would never even be played and were instead added to said saving, he'd have had more and would have been able to not sell his games (or just less)

                Kind Regards,
                Mr Missed The Fucking Point

    You are lucky. New generations of gamers [steam, origin, uplay] wont be able to sell their collections anymore!

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    I'd never sell my shit to pay for a wedding or something like that, weddings don't have to be extravagant.

      Weddings are extravagant BECAUSE they're weddings. I had a friend who recently got married. They went to a wedding place to get a flower arrangement for the tables at the reception.

      $2,000.

      They took photos of the flowers, then went to a florist and asked what it would take to create something similar. They were very careful not to mention the 'W' word.

      $250.

      People multiply the cost of things by a factor of insanity as soon as you tack the word 'wedding' to it. Stationery for invitations, bridal party's hair and make-up, car-hire, photographers... (OK, that last one, that's seriously the only way they can eat, so maybe let them have that). Seriously, though. A wedding I went to a while back, the bride and groom's parties hired expensive fancy cars to drive them to the church, WHICH NO-ONE EVER SAW. They could've taken a fucking bus and no-one would've known! The thousands of dollars were unnecessary.

      Weddings are a scam industry, artificially inflating prices to play on sentiment, just because they can. Do NOT let them get away with it. Don't make your final purchase at any place that specifically specializes in weddings - just use them for window-shopping to get an idea of what to ask for elsewhere. Everything (EVERYTHING) you want to buy or hire? Do NOT let them know it is for a wedding unless you absolutely have to. (Whoever's doing your invitations, for example, will probably twig to the fact when they read your copy.)

        Indeed. Wedding cakes are the worst. Worth 50 bucks and sold at 1500 for instance.

          A member of my family makes cakes, as a hobby not for a living, but they are still amazing and she does do paid work for friends or friends of her friends. If you think a wedding cake is only worth $50 you must be buying it from a franchised bakery. The amount of hours it takes to create those things out of sugar is mind boggling. And ingredients for a cake that is homemade, good quality and will do at least 50 serves is WAY over $50.

          My wife's a cake decorator and i can tell you those cakes take days to make and a lot of skill... definitely worth more than $50

        The reason why weddings are so expensive is because most women have the idea in their head that it's going to be like a fairy tale and that everything must be perfect.

        My wife didn't buy her dress at a bridal shop, she just bought a nice white dress (i forget where) for like 100 bucks, she did the invitations herself, we got the cake from Michel's Patisserie for $100, hired one car and used her sisters car for the other one, her brother took the video etc. They can be as extravagant or as simple as you want them to be

          Damn straight. Organize everything yourself, and whatever you do - for the love of GOD do not tell anyone you're buying anything from that it's for a wedding.

          As a woman who knows a fair amount of other women, I feel I am perfectly qualified to tell you your opinion about "most" women is extremely wrong.

        This. My one piece of advice learned from planning my own wedding: never use the 'W' word. Saying something's for a wedding is almost a guarantee you'll be grossly overcharged.

    I would never ask her to sell her books so I would expect her not to ask me to sell my games.

    If you do absolutely everything together & never have time to yourselves, you'll be at each other's throats before too long.
    You need some "me" time now & then.

    That's exactly my plan though. I've been collecting games as hobby right now and also a way for me to save money with material products (might lose some money but I feel happy getting it :P).

    My girlfriend supports me in buying game and whenever I tell her I want to get some specific stuff she just nods and if I ever missed out on some rare game preorder, she would shout at me for being stupid.

    Love the lady and will be leaving it all behind when I move on to my next stage of life. After all she is more important than games.

      You say you "collect" games as a hobby, you say nothing about playing them. If that's the case, go ahead and sell them all so someone who will actually play them can have them.

        Really. I buy games and read kotaku so that I can bloody collect games? How dense can you get. I probably play more game than you.

      you could always wait a while until its cheaper and snap them up for your collection

      example. for the first time ever i bought a collectors edition game (sc2)
      i realised i finally have money now after uni and i like collecting physical things

      however, with SC2 WOL, it was hella expensive and even more expensive to buy it after a year, due to CE's being "rare"

      but for a time Amazon was selling them for cheap, which you could resell for a tidy profit if you wanted to on ebay

      Similarly, i always buy pc games from cd key vendors at more than 50% discounted from RRP
      then after about a year, these vendors start liquidating physical boxes from which they got the cd keys for about $2-$10.
      when i buy them then, I effectively have a nice boxed version to display, while playing the game since launch, for much less than RRP.

      the point is, if collecting is really what you are after, there are ways to do it while saving money

      also, artbooks and posters, can easily be custom printed online for a fraction of the price

    “He used to turn off the games when I’d come into a room,” she said. “He doesn’t anymore.”

    The author isn't clear as to whether this is good or bad. Was his sister upset because her husband turned the games off, trying to hide it from her as soon as she walked in? Or is she frustrated now because her husband won't stop playing games for her?

      In other words, he now ignores her when he's gaming.

        Who doesn't ;)

          Hehe, yep. But you've got to develop a kind of peripheral hearing/answer reflex. Most teenagers have this, where they seem to hear what you are saying and even respond appropriately, but they haven't really absorbed what you've said. My wife hates this, and I'm always getting caught out when I forget the stuff I said while gaming. It's worth it though!

            Yeah, this stuff surprises me all the time. I look down at texts I've sent during Uni and have no idea when I sent them and no recollection of writing them

        While that seems more likely, I'm not convinced that the article implies that strongly enough to stop me from interpreting it the other way.

    I don't see this as a guy saying:

    "Oh woe is me! She's making me give up my life for her",

    but rather as a statement to say

    "Hey I'm choosing to do this for her, I know I can come back to this in the future but for now this is what I need to do"

    There's always compromise in relationships and life. We all have things we have to choose between. There's just not enough hours in the day to do everything we want to do. So I see this as a kind of love letter to games to say goodbye (for now).

    I'm recently married, but I never once considered having to sell anything fit the wedding date, rather we fit the wedding date to our finances. We had a budget, we then worked out how long it would take to save up enough money to reach it, and set the wedding date accordingly.

    I guess it just comes down to your priorities, but to me, it feels like you're selling off part of your own history. I just hope it's not something you'll come to regret down the track.

      so much this. if you need to sell your stuff to afford your wedding, you are having too big a wedding. Just did my 2nd to the same lady (two countries), we used the same clothes, she made her own bouquet and the corsages, and the hire car was to drive us to our honeymoon, who gave a damn what it looked like!

    Add me to the list of people who don't agree with you selling your games. For three reasons:

    1) I love games, why the f*ck would I sell them? I've got books I love that I probably won't read again for years, but I'm not going to sell them. That stuff is ART to me. I sold my SNES when I was younger for a pittance, and I still regret it immensely. It was part of my childhood and I would have liked to give it to my kids.

    2) Is it even worth it financially? How much can you get for a second hand game? $30? And you have to list and sell and post them all separately? So you make a few hundred dollars. Is that worth selling your memories for? Depends on your circumstances I guess, but I would prefer to put the time you spend listing things on ebay into doing some extra work and earning that money personally.

    3) I'm married with two kids, and while I don't have much time for gaming, I do still get to enjoy my gaming time at least once a week. People on average spend more than an hour watching TV every night, so what's wrong with spending that time gaming instead, will you sell your TV as well? Married life shouldn't change much at all in my opinion. Now kids, they will royally f*ck up your timetable... until they settle down a bit and you can work around them.

    Granted, RPG epics have become a bit of a no go zone for me, but multiplayer matches and shorter games like Portal and Journey keep me very happy. Also, iPad gaming - it was designed for people without much time.

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      Fully agree with all three points. When you get a wife and kids, your free time shrinks, and forces you to make some decisions about how you will fill that free time. Don't worry, you'll still have SOME free time, and, if you are a gamer, you'll no doubt fill that free time with gaming, perhaps at the expense of TV or reading or going out with friends. I find that my free time is now a couple of hours after the kids go to bed, a couple of hours before the kids wake up, and if I'm lucky, an entire Saturday or Sunday every month or so. So now I play games morning and night, and average about 3-4 hours per day, depending on what my wife wants to do.

      "Now kids, they will royally f*ck up your timetable... until they settle down a bit and you can work around them"
      LOL! I'm only at kid #1 and I can aggree.
      TBH, I wouldn't sell all my games. A few years ago I did a big clearing out of old games. I could never part with Final fantasy collection but I was happy to recover funds from games like the "newer" Golden Axe.

      I sold my N64 and my see-through original Game Boy (and most of their games) when I was a teenager so I could buy a Gamecube. What a silly decision that was. Sure, I can always just buy another one off ebay now, but it wouldn't be the same. They were my first gaming machines.

      At least I kept my Ocarina of Time and Majora's Mask cartridges. I don't think I could live with myself if I did that.

    A wedding is essentially a party. If you're that low on funds I think you'd be better off scaling back the wedding and using the game-cash for something else important. You can still make it a memorable event without putting on a huge show.

    But that's just me.

      Wedding cost to honeymoon cost 1:3
      The wedding can go by in such a blur, I was glad we spent more on the honeymoon

      Yep, spot on.

      It's an expensive party, and free feed for people who generally barely care enough to appreciate it.

      Scale back the wedding, make it more intimate, which is generally more 'special' anyway, and you could have kept the game dude, or at least most of them.

    My first year of marriage wasn't very hard. I must be doing it wrong.

      I concur, our first year was bliss! Even though we'd been together for 10 years, it was fun, exciting, new, different. The first year is the best :)

    Just got married last year myself. The only thing I've sacrificed is how many games I bought in the lead up. I still play just as much but the collection grows slowly now.

    I am however dreading the day we get a bigger place and the many tubs filled with old games and consoles that are stored at my Mum's finally come out. The wife knows they exist but I think she's underestimating the size of the collection.

    I wouldn't dream of selling our consoles and games to pay for our wedding and neither would my fiancée. We met because of video games, we're getting married with a fairly video gamey theme and weddings don't HAVE to be glorious and expensive affairs. I honestly am astounded by the overblown weddings I've been to, with 150+ guests, frilly tables and fancy food.

    We're having our wedding at a pub (most likely), the reception at a bowling alley and we're getting our rings custom made in America out of a cheaper material than gold or silver, all three ideas my fiancée thought of. So far everyone we've told about our plans has been floored and said "That is the best idea ever" mainly because not that many people like sitting around making small talk over a fancy dinner with people they barely know in mine or my fiancée's family.

    What matters most with our wedding is that everyone has a good time, and so far it's looking like everyone's really into the idea.

    On a side-note, saying "the first year of Marriage is the hardest" is something I just don't understand either. I've been with my fiancée for almost 7 years and the only thing I expect to change when we're married is a last name, and we get a fancy certificate.

    If that's what you did for love and a wedding wait until you have kids ;)

    Good on you mate, it's a great surprise compromise you've gone for.

    Sorry Christopher, but you've kind of made a mistake.

    If you're going to sell your videogames, then do it for the right reasons. Selling such an important part of who you are, for what is essentially an expesnive party, is ridiculous. That's coming from someone whose wedding cost 35K.

    I'm currently selling part of my large gaming collection too, but it's not for anything like a wedding, or even a child (which I also had a year and a half ago), it's to conitnue the habit that has defined so much of my life.

    I'm selling SOME old, to usher in the new.

    Hell, my wife physically wouldn't have allowed me to do it. Even now, she keeps asking "Are you sure you want to sell that stuff? Are you SURE?"

    Each to their own. Personally though, I wouldn't sell my collection for anything. I know it's silly, but it's a part of me, and I would miss it. I still regret selling my PS1 and some of its games all those years ago. I would also never ask or expect a partner (currently single, so being hypothetical here) to give up, say, his car or motorbike or whatever else he may have that's worth a lot of money that I know he's passionate about. Not for a wedding. Not for a honeymoon. A good wedding can be a cheap wedding, and a cheap wedding can still be a good wedding. You just have to be imaginative. Also, it doesn't hurt to put it off until you can budget and save up enough.

    Ten years from now when there is no sex and just constant nagging you'll be regretting selling your games for a ridiculously overpriced, extremely short ceremony! Get married on a beach in bare feet, weddings don't have to expensive to be great.

    How much for a typical 'fairy tale' wedding these days?! I wonder if i have to sell my collection of snes, ps1-3 games...

    I sold all my games to help save my marriage. It didn't work.
    Now I have no games, part time kids and no wife.
    Really miss the kids and games actually... ..

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