Off Topic: Scariest Thing You've Ever Done?

As you might already be aware, we're currently running a Bloodborne competition. The theme of that competition is 'Face Your Fear'. We're organising for one lucky winner to face their fear (and win loads of other stuff). Anyway, I thought it might make for an interesting topic: what's the scariest thing you've ever done?

I find that fear is all relative. I've gone skydiving, for example, but I'm not afraid of heights so I don't feel like I had to muster up that much courage to do it. I was far, far more nervous for my driving test than I was to go skydiving.

When I was 19 I went by myself to the United States for four months. I found that quite scary back then. At that time in my life four months felt like an eternity.

What's the scariest thing you've ever done?


    Probably the scariest thing I've ever done is to go diving with great whites in Gansbaai. We went to a little spot called Seal Alley. I was in a cage but let me tell you when a 4 metre shark smashes into your cage, the cage doesn't necessarily feel like the protection that it should be.

    Amazing experience though.

      Cage goes in the water, you go in the water. Shark's in the water. Our shark.
      Farewell and adieu to you, fair Spanish ladies. Farewell and adieu, you ladies of Spain. For we've received orders for to sail back to Boston. And so nevermore shall we see you again.

      This is super high on my bucket list. They're my favourite animals, and I'm terrified of the prospect of doing it, but I know I'll love it once I'm doing it.

    Yeah, I think living in London was pretty terrifying.

    Also this might sound stupid, but going to first Kotaku gathering was scary stuff. :P

      In fairness, my car was kind of shit.

      Aw, since others are being serious I guess I should be too:

      Coming out to family and friends was probs the scariest thing I've done.

      Also one of the best things I've done! *decisive nod*

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        That's still too scary for me to do.

          I'd tell you that you should just do it and you'll feel amazing and things will be good and a weight will lift off your shoulders, but it won't make it any easier for you to do. I know from experience that you've got to get right with it yourself and there's no time frame for that to happen. Wish you all the best, though. You'll do it eventually and it will be a good day for you. (No matter the responses you get!)

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            Thank you so much for the kind words. (As you'd know, it means a lot :) )

        I should've said the same thing. I likely didn't think of it because while it was incredibly scary and stressful at the time (and the decade leading up to it), I no longer associate it with that. I built it up in my head as something that would destroy my life; my parents would disown me, my friends would desert me. At a more base level: that everyone would think of me differently.

        But once it was done? The opposite happened. I became closer with my parents and my friends said it was great to know the real me. I'd basically been engineering a person since I was a teenager, someone who was only partly me but also wasn't someone others wouldn't think was gay. To me at the time, thanks to conservative parents (who've thankfully softened since) and growing up in a country town, being gay was the worst thing I could be. Even if future-me had told me in person with unrefutable evidence that coming out would be a positive experience and my life would be better for it, I wouldn't have believed it. It still would've been the scariest thing I've ever done. But now I only wish I did it ten years sooner.

        I absolutely agree with you on both your points @dc.

          You're awesome, my friend! You're right too, I wouldn't have believed my future self either!

      I thought it would've been saying avant garde outloud!


        That was just embarrassing. :P

    Have kids... and not knowing if I will do something to screw up their lives.

      Absolutely this!
      First time dad was terrifying, even though we thought we had it all planned out. wouldn't trade the little fella for anything now though

        Agree with you 100%. Still, I am constantly aware of my own flaws and terrified that they will negatively affect them in anyway.

        I'd like to put this as an entry for the Bloodborne competition. Alas it's not Bloodborne related nor I can think of a way to face it.

          hmmm...neither can I.
          Unless once they reach majority we turn them loose on the world and let society judge wether or not we've raised them correct. Although the way society is headed I probably won't care for the general opinion.

        When I brought my first home that was pretty terrifying. Now that my wife and I are planning a family I must admit that is scaring the bejeezus out of me.

          Ride it out @shamrocks. Best thing in the world is when your kid(s) wake up in the morning (they ALWAYS wake up happy...when did we lose that?) and run into your legs for a hug. Priceless.

    Snorkeling in open water. I nearly drowned when I was about 5 years old. Since then I've had a mortal fear of being out of my depth in water or unable to see the bottom. Took me 40 years to get over it, but I finally realised a 5 year old child was holding a grown man back and let it go.

      I feel this way about safety stops when I do a boat dive. Your sitting in one spot and all you see is the anchor line and everywhere else just dissolves into blue. I still do it but I can tell you I use more oxygen sitting still in the safety stop than at any other point on the dive.

    Dropped acid & the only guy with me was drunk.
    Got lost within myself contemplating existence, communication & how the mind works (I'd just read Dune).

    I had to use the guy's drunken rambling as a beacon to reality & crawl back, learning how to human all over again.


        Abuse of drugs, sure.

          Haha! I just like to stay in control. The prospect of being out of control is scary to me!

            It can be very scary, but it really puts things in perspective.

            Can help you realise how real life is all that scary.

            That said, definitely not for everyone.

      I'm gonna go with this as well. First time I took it the guy I was doing it with left to go home sick with his girlfriend, just before I came on. Craziest next 10 hours of my life.

        Alone? Alone would be full on!

          Its fine, you just find a nice tree-filled park to play in, preferrably with fountains as well
          works especially well after seeing something like a 3d dinosaur movie at an Imax ;)

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            I agree with the park idea, but I find movies really bring you back down to reality (and give you your sense of time back which isn't really what I want). Also, IMO, a poor way to spend your time while waiting to come on if you want the full visual effects. Same goes for watching a music visualizer, wait a few (3-4) hours after taking before you turn that on or it doesn't work the same.

            Just my experience, it's obviously different for everyone (especially first time users, it will be more intense), but for regulars like myself the first few hours heavily influence the next 8-10.

          My semi-experienced friend left about 90 minutes after taking it, then I was alone for the next three hours. Between coming to terms with the sea creatures swirling around in the patterns on the floor in my kitchen (Think octopuses and Krakens), and the giant movie characters jumping in and out of the clouds outside every couple of second, some other friends arrived (who shared between them zero experiences of my current situation) Friends ended up taking me out to the city, which in retrospect was a fairly poor decision but did take my mind off stuff.

          This was several years ago and I did eventually have a good time after all of that, have done it alone many more times aswell but prefer to be with people who are sharing the experience. And while I do have positive memories now, at the time it was scary as hell.

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    Jumping off things. I don't mind heights (used to climb, have flown in tiny planes, and abseiling is no problem), but jumping even small drops is terrifying. First was jumping off hay bales into a huge pile of hay at a mate's farm when I was a kid, the high board at the pool, and then again bungee jumping. Did it eventually. Shit scared though.

    Also setting off entirely on my own on my tricycle 3 weeks after I arrived in Australia was pretty daunting...

    I ride in traffic every day though and people think I'm mental, so I guess fear is a weird thing and all about the perception of danger a lot more than the actual danger.

      It's not the fall that will kill you, it's the ground at the bottom of it.

    The scariest thing I've ever done is read the comments on that Anita Sarkesian post from a few days back. The Kotaku commenteriat really, really hates women. Especially outspoken ones.

    The scariest thing I've done? Your mother... badoomtish!

    Taking a ski lift, during a family trip around Europe when I was 9 or 10. I've found I've got less a fear of heights and more a fear of falling from heights - had no problems in cable cars or anything that was enclosed... but feeling the raw wind buffetting you about? Wondering if the ski lift was holding you as precariously as you were your skis, as you felt them slip slightly in your grip... I distinctly remember walking back down the mountain, having been too shaken up to make use of my ski lessons.

      I'm fine on ski-lifts. Fine dangling by ropes. It's the drop. Even giant swings freak me out.

    Told my best friend I was in love with her.

      Uh, in a more conventional sense, I've been pretty afraid for my life or others' lives quite a few times.

      Let's see... Minus the redacted ones, and things I can't even remember, and a couple that just gave me a panic attack and now I have to take some time out:

      * passenger in a high-speed car crash
      * passenger in a light aircraft in the middle of fucking nowhere that had engine trouble (and didn't crash - but I was still scared shitless)
      * being caught out on the ocean in a storm
      * being in a wooden beach-shack which got impaled by a tree during another (different and more violent) storm
      * pulling a kid out of traffic before he got clipped
      * GETTING clipped by traffic
      * receiving a suicide-note SMS from an out of town friend and calling her uni's campus security to find her
      * a series of you-wouldn't-believe-it-if-you-read-it unfortunate events and 000 call-centre fuckups that led a myself and federal police into believing a fraudster that I may have had a hit put out on me (it's a really long story)
      * accidentally overdosing on painkillers while delirious with pain and waiting on tests in the hospital to see if I was going to die an incredibly painful death from liver poisoning with nothing they could do to stop it
      * feeling weird (dizzy, view zooming in and our, heart-racing) after an electric shock, wondering if I was going to die
      and, uh...
      * walking into the office break room to see four of the coworkers I'd either been involved with or was currently casually involved with, talking to each other and staring at me. Oh god. *shudders*

      Man, it is a miracle I'm not dead yet.

        Most interesting man on Kotaku.

          hmmm after reading all that, I'm pretty sure he is now just a head in a jar, futurama style

        Hang on, hang on - "four of the coworkers I'd either been involved with or was currently casually involved with" - who are you, David Duchovny?

          "Trust No One" (...that'd you've had 'relations' with)

          It's not that unusual! It was a decently-sized building - easily a couple hundred people in it. And I had foolishly decided not to take the advice 'don't shit where you eat' for a year or so. And it's not like I was seeing all of them at once... or together.

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        Damn you and your abundant life experience TM. Also, judging by what you said your scariest experience was and these, physical safety isn't high on your priority list

    I dived into a shark tank (willingly).

    Although I wasn't scared at all, some people might find that terrifying.

    Skydiving. I was literally nearly in tears when I got pushed out of the plane, and my throat made an inhumane attempt at a scream when I felt the initial force of gravity.

    Having said that I'd love to do it again without an instructor stuck to my back!

    Buying Hotline Miami 2 off of Steam.

    Getting divorced and now having to start legal proceedings to get more time with my son :(

    Did a one-man protest on behalf of East Timor in Jakarta in front of Aus & Indo politicians and press 20 years back. Got whisked away and deported by ASIO. Was shitscared the whole time, believe you me.

      Holy crap, that would have been as scary as shit getting dragged to the airport and deported. East Timor is a great country though, lived there for a little while and I'm sure the people would he have been very grateful!

    Went on a 'mission' one moonlit night as a bunch of teenagers out to an active army base/training camp to infiltrate the WW2 tunnel complex, search for relics and generally get up to mischief. We mistimed our exit along the coast as the tide came in and had to make our way back past the barracks as the clouds came over. The guard dogs went off, the lights went on, there was yelling and footsteps and then suddenly a searchlight. It was a very very tense moment. We got away into the bush and laid low. Saw some army guys scouting around with torches. They were very close but eventually gave up, must of figured it was possums.

    Pants were shat. I guess you could call this ' Almost got caught trespassing'

    Shooting range to the left of the barracks(top centre), tunnel entrances in a couple of places to the right, the easy ones to find are under the tiny circular gun emplacements to the far right of the big grassy area.,+Whangaparaoa,+New+Zealand/@-36.6014714,174.8257575,3199m/data=!3m1!1e3!4m2!3m1!1s0x6d0d2ebd3db7a353:0x500ef6143a2c240

    I used to be a platform diver. I was learning to move one of my dives (back one-and-a-half somersaults, one-and-a-half twists) from the 3 meter springboard to the seven meter platform.
    A few months earlier I got "lost" in the air with this dive and wiped out; that moment in the air, that moment of eternity where I knew I was out of control but hadn't painfully hit the water yet was one of the worst moments of my life. As I stood on the seven meter with my back to the water, psyching myself up, all I could think about was how much longer that horrifying moment would last with an extra four meters to experience it in.
    It was utterly terrifying.

    When I lived in Glasgow my girlfriend moved to a really shitty suburb meaning I had the pleasure of risking my life getting the bus to and from her house. Needless to say I broke up with her not long after and moved to Australia. Was not worth the hassle.

    White water rafting, swimming with sharks and doing my Honours presentation had nothing on that.

    I'm not fearless, but I can't think of anything I've done that I would describe as terrifying. All the stuff that scares me is weird, but even then it's not so much fear as just discomfort. My fear of commitment influences pretty much every part of my life but it's not really fear as much as just an idea my brain refuses to process. I'm not actually scared of relationships or filling out forms, it's way less rational than simply being afraid of those specific things.

    Bungee jumping the Nevis in NZ - 134m of freeeee-fallin.

    Then White water body-boarding the very next day - good times.

    You'd think it'd be something from skydiving, but even cutaways or night jumps aren't really that scary IMO.

    The most scared I've ever been in terms of physical danger would probably have been on the motorcycle, had the tail spin up and step out on me at a nontrivial speed while riding like an asswipe on the Great Ocean Road, and it was like bullet time in The Matrix. Everything just slowed down, and I remember feeling my heartrate increase rapidly, and I kinda had an "Obi Wan's voice in the Death Star trench run" moment where I remembered being told how to handle that, and forcing myself to just pin the throttle and get my weight forward. It stepped back into place and regained traction, I pulled over and just laid down for a few minutes.

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    As a woman by myself getting into a literal stranger's car in New Orleans because I was horribly lost.

    I actually remember thinking "I've seen this episode of Law & Order."

    Abseiling with a harness that I had assembled myself from a single length of strap 10 minutes beforehand.

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